Friday, 6 May 2016

Dealing with Expectations and Disappointments 1

Have you ever expected so much from somebody and got your hopes dashed? Well, I have and I have also had to deal with the hurt several times until I learnt a spiritual truth about expectations and disappointments. We’ll be talking about them in a short while, after I share a recent experience I had on this subject. Here goes.
I was invited for an outing by my friend, and her big sis was going to be at the outing, so you could say expectations were quite high on my side.
So, after a splendid movie, we had something to eat, and we went on a shopping spree, and this was where my hopes for a swell time got dashed. So, this big sister (whom I know, and knows me quite well) kept picking up stuff for her family and my friend. I mean, courtesy would demand that she at least get something for me, or ask what I would like (even if I won’t take so much considering the fact that it’s not my money I’m spending) or at least pay for my ice cream. And so, my disappointment (at her inactions) turned to hurt, hurt metamorphosed to anger and then bitterness had a filled day in my heart. Lord, have mercy!!!
I’m sure many of you will be quick to castigate me and point accusing fingers at me, but let him that has never done same cast the first stone.
I talked to be God about the way I was feeling. I told Him how angry I was (‘cos I learnt a long time ago to be real with God. Not like He doesn’t already know though). I talked to myself severally, but the anger and disappointment didn’t just go away until I realised some truths…
Those truths I realised, we’ll talk about tomorrow, D.V.
In the meantime, you could get the idea from Proverbs 28: 21, Jeremiah 17:5-8, and 1 Corinthians 10:23.


From me to you: don’t expect too much from any human, no matter how close you are to them.
Always make excuses for humans. It’ll save you the stress of assumption and bitterness (Geez! That stuff zaps out energy like nothing you can imagine, and you can expect that it tempts you to gossip too) #DelonixCares.

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